Why you should eliminate “should” from your vocabulary
Posted: October 3, 2018
Words carry energy. The way you talk to yourself is powerful. Language is a tricky thing. Because we all have varying interpretations and associations with words, there are not necessarily any “good” or “bad” words. Except for words like should. No good comes from should. Choice. One reason should needs to go is that it takes away your sense of choice. When you feel obligated, resistance arises. Check this out for yourself. Think of some things that you “should” yourself with. Examples:
- I should eat better.
- I should get up an hour earlier every day to make time for exercise.
- I should be more patient with my spouse.
- I would like to eat better.
- I can choose to get up an hour earlier every day to make time for exercise.
- I strive to be more patient with my spouse.
- I shouldn’t be feeling fear/sadness/anger/anxiety.
- I should be a better partner/parent/employer/employee.
- I should be further along in my career/personal growth/healing/life by now.
- I am feeling fear/sadness/anger/anxiety. These feelings are difficult, and they are part of being human. Feelings are just energy and information.
- I am a good enough partner/parent/employer/employee, and I can strive to be better. Who I am is separate from what I do.
- I am exactly where I am supposed to be in my career/personal growth/healing/life. It is OK to be in process.